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My experience with Undefined Ajna

My experience with Undefined Ajna

My experience with undefined became clear just in the last year. In the beginning, I could not really understand what it meant to have an undefined Ajna Center? What is the not-self of the undefined Ajna Center? How does it take shape within me?
But after being in a relationship for a while with a person that has defined an Ajna, I could better see what it means
The pressure to fix thoughts patterns.
For me every time I was not in my body, loyal to the depth of my emotional authority, I felt like I experienced headaches and pressure in the head, eyes, and the back of the neck. It came from the enormous pressure to have a consistent way of thinking, a way of expressing my thoughts that were fixed.
Before I met Human Design I was always trying to be like other people that have such clarity and consistency in their way of formulating thoughts and mental ideas. It sounds so solid and stable to me, but after being in the Human Design experience a while I noticed that this is only the sound of the Ajna.
It does not necessarily have physical truth. I slowly started to notice the difference when the defined Ajna is supported by the frequency of the body vs when it is playing its regular audio of data analysis.
Though I must admit it’s not easy to identify the difference.The Ajna Center is the main primary center that takes life and translates it into forms, objects, words, and concepts that we can understand and communicate with each other. For me, very often, it sounds very convincing. It sounds like the truth, like confidence. But actually, it can only be the fixed frequency that is expressed there, like any defined center.
What is under the cover?
I must admit that it was hard for me to stand in front of the defined Anja, and to bring my truth. Because in my case I don’t have firm mental arguments, fixed patterns to see and organize reality. I just don’t have them. What I do have is the way I feel and what my body resonates with or not. Many times I feel under this pressure, under the concepts, the ideas, the illusion of words that sound so clever and smart. But actually, they can be just a cover. It took me a while, a very long while, to be able to remove the content of the words that were actually well expressed, leaving only the frequency of the person, and from there, to listen.
Being inspired
On the other hand, when I and the other person were in our bodies, and in our authority, I could enjoy the expression of a unique way of thinking from the other and be inspired!
And through compromising in the Ajna through various gates, I could also experience the exposure of my own unique structuring of concepts. To be with an undefined Ajna means, for me, to enjoy many ways of seeing reality. Being exposed to all kinds of different boxes, that never passed in my way of thinking before.
The main insight that I have so far is to allow myself fluidity of thoughts, to flow with my perspectives on life in the mental realm, knowing that there is no certainty in the way I think. There is no consistency, I can simply change my observation and my mind quite easily. The only thing I can trust is the body and the frequency of it. In my case, emotions, and the way I feel without any explanation, in the moment and over time.
People with undefined Ajna, how do you experience it?
Do you feel more inspiration or more pressure where you are now in your process?
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My experience with the undefined sacral

My exprience with open spleen 

The open spleen is one of the most fascinating centers to look at in my body graph. The spleen is completely open, and all fears and intuitions are passing through there.
The illusion of physical safety
I remembered my father told me that as a child I used to enter a road full of cars without even caring, with no fear, and with complete ignorance of the possible danger. When I grew up, those reckless decisions became an attachment and an unreasonable fear for survival.
A few months before I entered the Human Design experiment, I had a boyfriend with a defined spleen, and I remember feeling so safe around him, like I could do anything and be everywhere and at any time and under any conditions, acting like a complete Tarzan. But while alone I would not even consider those adventures.
After a few months of dating, I needed to leave my place, and I immediately jumped on the opportunity to live next to him, close to nature, in a yurt. Back then he had no running water and no heating system. He was almost self-sufficient with all physical needs. My mind found it charming, but my body suffered immensely.
The feeling of being protected, like I could do everything around him was so strong! Once I came back home, all the courage and curiosity vanished away, and I was glad to come back to my princess palace which is clean and warm, compared to him it even seemed spoiled.
Seeing conditioning in action!
After a while, I met the Human Design experiment and dove radically into it. Our road started to split, and he funny enough had almost all the same undefined centers I have. The genes are just trying to find the perfect match and with no Inner Authority, they succeed in doing so! Hilarious!
I was deep in my experiment and could not ignore the mechanics. I needed my space alone, to not be overloaded by sacral energy, to take care of my body, not to make any intuitive decisions, or to be under pressure.
I came to him and I said that I might take some distance for a while. He knew about Human Design, and he respected me while being convinced that I’m crazy 🙂 He was extremely kind but could not understand things that I experienced within my body while I’m around him.
The same day we broke up and I left his place. I remember all my body shaking, I started to cry, and I felt like a little baby being left alone in the dark. Like I might die every second moment, or as if someone will come in any moment and eat me. I felt unprotected and weak. Like I could literally not survive on my own. (although I had already been living on my own since the age of 18, including three years alone in foreign countries).
Because I had in my awareness the knowledge of Human Design, I knew those were only the voices of my open spleen speaking in their not self-frequency. And I could see clearly its effect on my body! Once I got home everything disappeared, the chemistry dissolved, and I felt relieved.
Beautiful – yet not mine
I understood that all the moments that I wanted to be spontaneous, to be out there in nature under every possible condition, while I trust my intuition, are simply false. I learned to respect the needs of my physical body, to take good care of it, knowing that my body is extremely sensitive, seeing over and over again that I can have fears with no proportion.
Nowadays I surrender to the fact that I am a little princess, and I need my palace. I need to be very attentive to the food I put in my body, to hot and cold weather, and even to the people that I meet. Now I just enjoy seeing people living in the wild, being intuitive, I enjoy seeing their trip while knowing that this is not mine. And I thank, once again, the Human Design knowledge and embodied experience, exposing to me time after time who I am and what I’m not, so I can enjoy my ride and live it fully.
Undefined and open spleen people – how do you experience it? What do you discover about yourself from it?
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To know my ride, to ride my ride, to love my ride.

To know my ride, to ride my ride, to love my ride

This weekend, as I was driving it was a sunset moment, the roads were kind of quiet and I felt like – this is it!
This is Human Design for me!
It is driving. It’s seeing my own body in space and learning out of the experience. It’s seeing the view change, seeing the people coming and going, my emotions, my thoughts, my feelings and practicing the mechanics. Seeing the mechanics.
Learning through movement.
What I see happening is that I can sit inside my car and study everything about the mechanics of the car without using it.
That actually my real learning is happening when I drive the car, when I check if there is enough air in the wheels, if the steering wheel is moving smoothly, if I have enough gasoline, if the windows are clean or not.
I need to check it for real just because I drive, and while I drive I can hear the noises in my car or I can hear the different songs that play out on the radio.
Looking backwards
I understand looking backward, now. Before I met Human Design and before I knew my inner mechanics, I was hiding from life. I was hiding from interactions, from people, honest decision making, from taking my real place in life because I was afraid and I did not know how I operate.
I was afraid of losing myself among others and I didn’t know what to trust within me. I did not know to separate what is me and what is the other, and it kept me locked within my own cocoon. Slowly I was shrinking and getting cold and lonely.
Luckily Human Design came and slowly but surely I saw how to start to open up and start to take my place in the world, as myself.
I dare to move, to drive around, to open up to people because I have my own ground. I start to feel my own body and trust it.
What I see when I meet people, and I am within my own experience, I see our duality of pain and happiness, the duality of mind and body, the duality of the physical plane and the spiritual plane, the duality of me and you.
I see that everything can co-exist.
I could not feel it before, I only knew it as a concept but now it’s an experience. It’s evident and it’s tangible.
I can see that things can appear and disappear together and that there is a place for everything.
I start to feel my own place. Therefore, I can give place in my life to other people. I can give place to other frequencies within my awareness.
This process is happening to me through making decisions, through actions.
Through literally taking my car and driving, moving in the world, talking to people, interacting and daring to choose and change every day.
No matter what I know about Human Design and about my chart, it does not count for me if I cannot live it out and if I cannot experience my life fully.
Meeting other cars
Human Design is helping me to make this ride on the road smooth and safe, interesting, and inspiring. Being on the road is for me. Meeting the people that are for me.
Once I know the mechanics, I can just experiment with it, I can play with it, and I can trust it.
When I drive in my own car and I look out the window, I see other cars, and I don’t care if they drive faster or slower, or if they’re more expensive or if they crash.
When I look outside and I see other cars, either I find that they are relevant to me and to my process, and I get inspired, empowered, and my experience gets richer, or I find they have no value for me.
But if I do not remain on my own ride, I cannot enjoy other people. places, interactions.
Only my road allows it to happen. The road that is exactly for me.
To know my ride, to ride my ride, to love my ride.
Lines Relationship

The 6 line phase – Reflection-Feedback-New

The 6 line phase - Reflection-Feedback-New

Two years ago I created an online course based on the 6 lines in the hexagram, on how to build a new business, following the qualities of each of the lines.Creating this course made me fall in love with hexagram and the magic that is being born in each line.Here is some wisdom from the 6 line.
I am in the last chapter. I can say that the business is ready, the creation is ready, I did all the process from the foundation into the natural gifts, into trial and error, into communication and publicity, into the seeing far into my vision. And the product and the service, the creation is out there.

Things are running for me. I gave my first gift or one of my gifts. Now I feel that the process is completed. The cycle is over. And when I feel that it is over, I feel I am done with this kind of creation and I feel the urge to go to a new cycle, or maybe you already felt it during the first cycle, the opportunities already call me out, Iu feels the excitement, the longing, the passion, to have another creation process, another product, another vision, another retreat, something is calling me once again.

So, before that, before I start going to my “Dream and Dear state”, and go through the process all over again, I recommend that I sit for a moment and reflect. Reflect about all the things I have done, all the processes I have gone through, and just feel it in my body. I can even take a pen and paper to write, or talk with a friend, and just recall all the process from the beginning until now.
And then give me feedback. See what I want to keep and what I want to let go of. See where I did things that I am not really happy with and where I did things thaT I am really proud of. So, it is good before I continue, to just reflect and to get feedback, on myself, to be honest to myself, to look at myself in the mirror and give some compliments. Of course, I celebrated my Impact already! But as well, give some corrections, some honest feedback like saying:” ok, this can be improved, this I would like to improve, this I made more or less, I need this or that for my next creation” Because like this I am growing.

And I really encourage myself not to copy-paste what I did already, to ask for expansion. If I did something and it worked well, beautiful! I can create something similar, but I am not the same person that created that thing. I already transformed. I am already bigger. I have more space within my vessel and within my heart. My potential has expanded. So also, the demand for more quality, for more depth, for more sharpness is there. Can I recognize it? Can I acknowledge it? Can I accept it?
Maybe there are some fears, maybe some excitement and emotions. So I just sit with all the sensations and just allow….the universes within me, towards the new creation, towards the new cycle.

So, I check that the cycle is well wrapped. If I want to close it, if it is possible to close it energetically, practically, emotionally, mentally. It is like a breakup with a boyfriend or a girlfriend or it is like leaving a house. I want to check that everything is closed until the last detail, so you can start a fresh start with a relaxed heart and lungs. So, it is about stopping for a moment, reflecting, taking a time to reflect, giving myself honest feedback, and preparing for a new cycle.

Because I am wiser now, I am smarter now, I am faster now, I am bigger now. Maybe I want to ask for more money. Maybe I want to give a bigger content. Maybe I want to go one step further with my publicity. Maybe I want to do a different collaboration. I am asking myself to expand. I am never pushing into extreme expansion. I am always encouraging progressive change. Yes, change, transform, but progressively. One step after the other. Consistently progress.

So, are you ready for your new cycle? What do you feel about the new creation? Do you have any new ideas, new inspirations? It is always good to have something new waiting for you, so you say: ok, now this is done, I am done, what is next? I would say what is next with excitement. With a big smile. And if there is nothing, ok, let the emptiness be. Don’t be afraid of it, you know you already did it once. It is just waiting for you to do it again. If you are receptive. If you are ready to receive it. If you are ready to give. A new cycle will be there for you. Are you ready?
Gates Relationship

Gate 22 – The gift of listening & appreciating expression

Gate 22 - The gift of listening & appreciating expression

The 22 gate, the gate of the listener. It is an individual gate and it is going out of the solar plexus and pointing towards the throat center and I have it in my design sun. Since I entered the Human Design experiment I am constantly looking and observing and being aware of that frequency. The way I see it through my design and my life is the gift of the listener. When I say listen I mean listen to all realms. Listen from the most spiritual place that exists to see things that are not seen and understood to the most physical and evident frequency that there is. It is a range of listening and when I listen to other beings and when I listen to myself I feel like there are a lot of tracks being played. It is not only one track, it is a lot of tracks that I am hearing and listening to. It is a multimedia experience of acoustics and layers of information that I sift through my physical ears but also the unseen ears that I have.
This is a big gift, the ability to listen. To deeply listen to the soul, the body to the mental and emotional realm to the energetical realm is not so easy because when I listen I also hear unpleasantness and pain and sorrow of myself and others. I also hear the beauty and the potential and the light that does exist.

Having it located in the solar plexus means it is constantly containing pain and pleasure, passion and lack of passion. It is the ability to listen to the range between pleasure and pain, passion and lack of passion, so all the melodies that exist in this range.
What I learned is how to listen deeply to myself and others and how much I love to receive deep listening and how much I appreciate when people can deeply listen without the need to constantly react and comment on what I say. I believe that listening is a great healing tool for the other to hear itself and when I talk to hear myself. So listening is like a container of the frequencies and allowing the frequencies to be and swim inside that acoustic space. Using the voice as a musical instrument to play whatever is inside and the listener is the audience and it is allowing this experience to happen and the magic to appear. We are not talking about good or bad, we are talking about whatever is there needs to be expressed.
The 22 gate is waiting and listening for a uniqueness for something that will mutate its soul, its individuality that will awaken it for transformation.
So when I listen I listen and look for uniqueness. I look for this special sound that makes me feel expanded, like something new that I have never heard. It can be in the melody or the emotional realm. It can be the organization of words or a concept.
So as a 22, I am looking or eager for that frequency that will transform me individually. Something that I can ponder about later that I can take into my emotional wave and that will enrich my individual process. Therefore I am very sensitive to my own way of expression and to the way of expression of others. I am attentive to the voice frequency and the words and to the way I choose how to organize my expression,
I am very sensitive to it and deeply appreciate people who can communicate who they are through words. It does not matter if I agree or disagree with what they are bringing, I just feel very connected to the authenticity that is flowing out of them and how they express themselves.
This is one of the gifts of the 22 gate and I guess the gifts will continue to unfold in my experience.
I wish all of us to contemplate and cultivate the ability to listen and to ask for listening when we need it. Just a simple act of sharing with no response and to receive that amazing container that we can give to each other.
Deconditioning Emotional & Non-Emotional Beings Essence Relationship

Who can not wait for me is not meant for me

Who can not wait for me is not meant for me

One of the biggest observations that I’ve had so far in the Human Design experiment is knowing that I am here to respect myself and respecting myself means to wait for my inner authority. This is the deepest respect that I can give to myself.This is one of the biggest expressions of self-love that I found for myself.
If other people cannot wait for me when I need more time I realize they simply aren’t for me. They are most likely amazing people and generous and loving and special human beings. If they are naturally in their behavior and state of mind they can not wait for me then on some level they cannot, right now, love me as I am.
If they are pushing me to act, if they are judging me or blaming me for the time I need it is not easy for me and is a message for me saying “well maybe they are not for you Bar”.
The people that can wait for me naturally that are not pushing me or judging me or blaming me for not behaving in a way they want me to behave, in a way they are saying to me “you are loved as you are, I am loving you as you are, you are welcome in your own timing.”
Especially for me as an Emotional Manifestor, this is very important because I really move on my own inner timing. Sometimes I really do need a long time to feel if something is right for me or not. For me, if someone is not respecting the waiting in a way it is a message that is saying: I am not trusting life, I’m not trusting divine timing, I’m not trusting that everything has its own place to exist and its particular timing.
For me, it is a deeper message than: You’re not fast enough or you’re not applying life the way I want it to be. This is a deeper message for me that says this person cannot let go of his/her mind.
This is something I am struggling with for myself, not allowing the mind to control my life so I don’t need people around me who still use the mind as an authority. In a way, it is even better for me to be around people who first, don’t respect the timing for me to move and second of all-seeing or thinking that the mind is an authority.
Again those people are not bad people or have bad intentions they are most probably amazing human beings but what I am asking myself are those people for me? Are they part of my specific journey? Do they fit the way I see life and want to behave in this life? Sometimes it is not easy to see people leaving and feel people abandoning my energetic field.
But I am here to trust my body, that it is leading me, my inner authority is leading me and whatever needs to happen is happening, maybe at the price of changing the environment and the people around me.
Whoever cannot wait for me is not for me. Maybe the mind wants to keep everyone around me and to be nice and polite and keep everything perfect and in place but the body knows and has no fear.
The body is completely satisfied with what is happening right now and the body trusts. Most probably it is the mind struggling and wanting me to be something that I am not. I am encouraging you to let go of people who cannot see you, understand you, or respect your inner authority. I am wishing myself to let go with love and compassion. It is not about them being wrong or not true to who they are. They are doing their journey and I am doing my journey so may we all be respected and respect the timing of the other. If there is no mutual respect maybe things need to change and unfold differently.
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Awareness points for Emotional Beings

Awareness points for Emotional Beings

One of my favorite topics in Human Design is the Solar Plexus, the emotional center, and the emotional being versus the non-emotional being. Today I would like to focus on the emotional being and a few things I was noticing along the way as an Emotional Manifestor.
Every year, every month, every week, every day there is a deeper and deeper understanding of what it is like to be an emotional being.
1)To connect to my emotions. It is not always easy to connect to what I feel. First, I would like to separate emotions and feelings. Emotions are the chemistry that rises up and down and feelings are the sensations in the body that come with the emotions. Allowing myself time during the day to connect to those emotions is not easy. To see how I can take the emotions from the head center to the throat center to the G center and down to the solar plexus in the area of the belly and the lower ribs. From my experience so far it takes time to dive into that trail of the body.
Literally like deep diving in the sea, it takes time to go down and to put the weight and equipment and make it down to the depths. The same applies to being an emotional being, it takes time to drop into your body and see what it feels.

2)Practical tool I would like to propose is a diary, internal or external, that goes from hope to pain. If you have a circumstance in your life or a decision you can just follow the good positive emotions and the negative emotions that come with it and make a diary.
I propose to put a sign on the wall or somewhere visible to you, with a word/ drawing of a decision or topic, or person.
Then you can come in front of it and see how you feel about it today and now?
Ask your mind not to judge if it is positive or negative if it relates to pain or pleasure. It’s simple like stepping into a room and see how you feel in this room each time.
You can do this physically on the wall or just simply do this within yourself.
It will obviously be a process, sometimes there will be a lot of pain relating to that person, decision, circumstances, sometimes much excitement and pleasure, or many questions and uncertainty.
This is actually the process of being an emotional being is to connect with something and to see what comes out of it emotionally and know that it will not be the same meaning whatever you feel now will change in a couple of minutes, hours and days. Just let the change be.

3)How to communicate emotions. I know that for me is has been a struggle and something I am still discovering is how to communicate what I feel to others using different vocabulary and different tools. What I have found is that before I even speak I want to find an emotional place within me, so I can talk from there. To find out how I connect to an emotional frequency within my body and then allow the words to go out from that place.
Many times I wanted to express something emotionally and I just did not have the words and I was not deeply in my emotional frequency in my body so although I had a really beautiful message to share with beautiful wisdom, it did not pass through because the frequency was not embodied in my emotions in the solar plexus. Some people are very sensitive to this and so am I. When I speak from a place of emotion that is connected to what I really experience then even if it is very hard it is easier to listen and to grasp what I try to express

4) Emotional being – do not give up on your emotional depth. Do not give up the wisdom and the details and the profound frequency that you each display in this life. It is not always easy to be that deep, that person that needs a lot of time but this is our gift! to be profound and deep. Touching the places that are part of the deepest landscape of our being, like touching the womb. Like touching under the earth.
Even though in our society half of us are emotional and the other half are non-emotional there is a tendency to talk in a very superficial way. When the emotional being is correct in their body and is embodying their own frequency, they are actually proposing more profound communication, something that needs time to reach.
So if I, as an emotional being, see that I need to talk fast in order to explain myself and I need to be superficial in order to connect with the other then I understand this form of communication is not for me because this is not my potential. My potential is to bring something deep and to see if there is a place for that depth.
Emotional beings – do not give up on your depth! because this is your gift, this is your potential, this is what you are here to bring. You are not here to bring a glass of water, you are here to bring the whole ocean to your creation, relationship, self, and into your daily presence.

Those are my awareness points for now. I hope they can empower you.
Centers Emotional & Non-Emotional Beings Relationship

The pain of the Emotional Being

The pain of the Emotional Being

Today I would like to share about the pain of an Emotional Being according to my experience and according to other Emotional Beings I am in contact with, as we shared the same pain.
We know that the Solar Plexus is the center that is responsible for the chemistry of emotions in our body and it is deeply related to pain and pleasure. It operates in waves and is all about taking the time to feel all the emotional details from life and let contemplation be. It is about time, depth, waiting, and allowing oneself to be the ocean.
I would like to share with you three points that have created pain and suffering in my life until slowly I discovered how I can embrace them and heal them.
1) Superficiality: As an emotional being I had a huge problem being superficial myself and having superficial interactions. As I had a deep need for depth and a deep need to go deep into whatever it is.
The pain was there because I saw around me the fear to go down deep into the experience. I felt that I needed to copy that and that I also needed to be superficial and to be smiling all the time and to be light and showing I am “ok”.This was part of the pain I was carrying until I met Human Design,the world seemed to me so superficial and I didn’t know how I fit in. Through time, through my experience and Human Design experiment, it is more that I allowed myself to be emotional than I became at peace with sometimes life will be superficial. I don’t always have the possibility or the option to go deep and this is completely fine.
This healing process was possible only when I was surrendering to my own depths and to my own waiting that I could accept superficiality and see the beauty of lightness and fun and things that are not so deep that are going faster.

2 ) Pressure of time: I noticed that this world can be very fast. People want a fast response or life is demanding that I act fast. I constantly felt under pressure and for an Emotional Being this can create a lot of inner anxiety and a lot of feelings of hurrying one process which is very very painful. The pain that comes when the outer environment is pressuring for answer and action while the inner environment, my inner authority, was not giving a green light to it.
The healing process included being okay with my own rhythm and my own timing no matter what is happening outside. This healing process continues building up as I am passing another day, another week, another month into the experiment.
I feel more and more comfortable taking my time and if this situation can not wait for me or the person can not wait for me then this thing is not for me. I learned to respect it. Today it feels completely different to know that I have my own world, my own timing, and my own timeframe to decide. I am here to respect and honor it, as it is my gift too.

3) Emotional understanding: As an Emotional Being I experience life constantly from the realm of emotions so everything for me is an emotional encounter or activity or circumstance. Everything is under the umbrella of emotions. For many years I was lacking emotional understanding. The resonance to the abstract world that I live in, I felt like I needed someone that can understand that. I felt lonely when I saw people around me looking for logic and looking for linear ways of thinking and looking at reality in a certain way while inside I felt many things are so abstract and emotional.
This healing process became very evident for me as I was deepening my own experience, I learned how to give myself this emotional expression and I also met people who understand this emotional expression. Finally, I could bond through that realm. What I learned through my experience is that when I bring this kind of perspective people can understand it but I can not expect other people to bring it if it is not part of who they are. I felt a big relief to bring emotional understanding to myself and then also to see that people can relate to it.
As more self-love came and appreciation and the ability to understand and feel me then I could give more space to the abstraction to the way I lived and I also found allies and a way to communicate this emotional life that I live.
4) How to gather all the information: I feel so many things and I constantly live my life through emotions, my emotions, the emotions of others. I live in such an abstract world that is full of emotions and water sensations, images and colors, I didn’t know how to gather all of it together? I felt frustrated not being able to embrace all the details and the nuances that shape me. This was a very deep pain for me to feel that I don’t succeed to bring everything together that is complete and makes it possible for me to grasp.
Through my healing process, I became more relaxed within and I learned how to accumulate all the data from the physical realm, the mental realm, and the emotional realm, and through time I learned how to express all the details of it when the time comes.
I was practicing a lot on how I verbalize to myself my inner world and to other people what I perceive. Now I allow myself the time to accumulate and to accumulate and to accumulate the data that I have received and let it sink with patience.
I learned to trust that through time I will see the picture and it will make sense and that my body and life will show me the magic of the whole. I feel I have expanded and I have the ability to embrace, through waiting and through time, all the nuances and all the emotional realities that I live in.
I hope this was beneficial for people that are emotional to connect to your pain because we as emotional people can allow pain and it is not something that scares us. Allowing the pain of superficiality and allowing the pain of being under pressure and stress and allowing the pain of not being understood emotionally and allowing the pain of how all the details will be gathered. Just accepting and giving space to that pain and from there I believe there is always a healing process and deep beautiful completion. Once there is an acceptance of what is painful there is also a possibility for transformation.
Centers Emotional & Non-Emotional Beings Relationship

Awareness-Practical points for Non-Emotional Beings

Awareness-Practical points for Non-Emotional Beings

I am an Emotional Manifestor but since entering the experiment I have had a lot of intimate relationships with people who are undefined or completely open in their solar plexus. In Human Design we call it “Non-Emotional beings”. As I am constantly exploring Human design I am constantly looking for more awareness and understanding between us, the humans. I was kind of forced to look at the dynamics between emotional and non-emotional.
Life took me to these kinds of relationships to explore and to observe. I was observing and recognizing a few points of awareness that may support the Non-Emotional beings.
1) Identify You identify when there is an emotional frequency in the space, you will feel a vibration that is present in the moment. So as Non-Emotional being the first step is to identify that something is “strange” in the atmosphere. Recognizing that until now everything was kind of okay like fluid water and then suddenly there is an emotion that creates a more condensed flow.
Emotion is something that is very condensed and very evident that is influencing its surroundings easily, so you want to give it space and attention and not be surprised by it. It can be a low wave or high wave but something in the density of the air will change and see if you can make sure to identify it. For each one it will be different, maybe you will feel it in the physicality, maybe you will feel it in your solar plexus itself. Maybe you will feel it in your belly or your eyes, so see what physical symptoms you can identify? Maybe you could also identify certain thoughts you have when this particular emotional frequency is entering into the picture? As you know the tendency of the not-self of the undefined/ open solar plexus is to avoid confrontation and truth, so the first step into meeting gracefully this conditioning and transforming it into wisdom is to say:” I know it is here, I don’t need to run away or act, I just identify the difference, that it is present now”.

2 ) Simple sentence Then you will go to the empathy part. If you are with someone emotional, you will know what the other feels on some level. What can be useful is just to imagine what the other might feel, and saying it words, in simple short sentences. If it’s pain, confusion, disappointment, joy, passion and just verbalizing it for yourself, ask yourself :” how can I enter into the world of the other and understand how it feels and make it simple?” .Because emotional frequency can be at times very abstract and hard to describe.
When you understand the other and make it simple for yourself, only then you can bring empathy, and it starts to be less frightening, if not it is just overwhelming. If you verbalize for yourself what is happening on the other side you are actually telling your body:” this was not here and now it is here, what is it?” You are entering into a mode of curiosity instead of fear and rejection and separation. When you start this inner inquiry it will feel more familiar and more comfortable to allow it to show you something instead of running away or entering into it roughly which are the two possibilities that the undefined/open solar plexus people are doing when they not self if active.

3) What is right for me – You recognized there is a change, you asked yourself what the other might be feeling and gave it words and then check with yourself – How are you about this? Do you need more time? Maybe it is not the time for you to feel something very exciting or something very low? Maybe later and maybe not at all? Just allowing yourself to dance with the possibilities and knowing you have the choice and you can observe the choice that is emerging out of your Inner Authority.

4) Communicate : once you are clear then you can communicate it to the other, for example, to say ”there is something here I need a moment/ there is something here let’s talk about it later / there is something here I don’t want to talk about or anything at all right now.” It is a way to respect your capacity at the moment and what is healthy for your body.

5) Inner Wisdom What I learned about myself? We can all learn from each other and if you as a Non-Emotional being experience an emotion from out side, either very high or very low, it is coming to show you something about yourself as well!.
It is true that it is not a constant frequency in your body and you should not make decisions from it but you can for sure learn something about yourself. You can learn about your own sorrow and hidden pain. You can learn about your own capacity to express joy and excitement and love.

When you step out of the situation or the situation is over, you can ask yourself :” what did I learn from this encounter? ” The tendencyI observed with Non-Emtotional beings is to say “This is not mine and I just continue and do things my way!!” but I don’t believe that human interaction is happening in order for us to just neglect each other. The essence in my experience is to learn from one another as I learn from each of my undefined and open centers.
Bar's Experience Deconditioning Relationship

My relationship with my parents after meeting Human Design and starting the deconditioning process.

My relationship with my parents after meeting Human Design and starting the deconditioning process.

I was asked recently about family relationships and meeting Human Design. I feel both very triggered and also inspired to answer this kind of question.
When I met Human Design I informed my parents about it very radically. I told them I need to be informed and I need time and I need space. And they didn’t really understand why. I tried to explain Human Design to them and they thought that it sounded crazy and wondered if it’s a kind of religion. But luckily they also respected me. They understood that Human Design is something that I’m going through. It’s something that I’m inspired by. And because of that understanding, they respected it.
In the beginning, it was quite hard. I am an Emotional Manifestor and so I asked them to tell me things in advance. I said “no” to a lot of their invitations or questions. It wasn’t easy for them because they felt like I was pushing them away. And I did push them away. I pushed them away because this experience was something new and I felt triggered when I was around them.
John Martin, my projector guide, calls the family, “the crime scene’ because the family is where we initially got conditioned. Because of this conditioning, a lot of the triggers can be provoked when we are close to our father, mother, siblings. We may have triggers that would not appear outside our family when we are amongst our relations. This is how it was for me in the first two years of the experiment. When I was close to my parents I became angrier, I became more impatient. It was hard for me to respect my Inner Authority. When I was around people who were not so close it was easier for me to practice my Strategy and Authority.
But life is mysterious and amazing and over the years, as I became more loyal to my body and have relaxed more, I see I have my own journey and they have theirs. I am actually now closer to my parents and now I’m even living close to them. Today we are almost in daily contact.
And I think I would never have had this opportunity to be so close to my parents without Human Design. It’s been a healing process with them. Human Design knowledge helped me to explain to them what I went through before I met Human Design. I explained to them why I was so isolated, why I was so angry and why I needed my space. This was news to them, they didn’t know all of this about me. They didn’t know how lonely I had felt or how confused I had been in the world. I was able to tell them, “thanks to Human Design I am starting to understand what is happening in me. Why I feel the way I do and what the difference is between me and other people.” I couldn’t have explained this in that way, in such a calm way, in such an abstract emotional way, without Human Design.
It’s been almost 5 years that I have been in the Human Design experiment. And I see it’s a process. I can really see myself entering into Human Design. Pushing everybody away so I can embody ‘this’ Emotional Manifestor being that I am. I see the other sometimes being hurt – not understanding what is happening between us. And then me getting softer and softer and then getting closer to them. I see myself explaining myself and apologizing and then establishing a new relationship. I see the process of us now making jokes about it and being able to contribute from my knowledge about Human Design to their process.
For me, it’s definitely a trajectory. A trajectory of getting into myself and pushing everybody away so I can hear my Inner Authority. So I can feel my body. And I knew I trusted Human Design. I knew that this process was so valuable and I knew that the peace that I feel in my body is right. And I knew, “I just have to be patient!”
And I was patient. It was very hard. I knew I was going to get “there”. I knew I was not going to stay distant from others forever. I knew I was not going to stay angry forever. I knew that so long as I am healing myself through Strategy and Authority, so long as I am living correctly I will be able to heal the relationship between myself and my parents and my brother as well.
And it’s been amazing. Now I can be around my parents, who before I could not stand to be with for more than 2 hours, and I love them.
Now I can help them and we can collaborate together and I also like to spend time with my mother and my father apart. Every two weeks we have an emotional talk when things are released. I see that my parents didn’t know ‘me’, an Emotional Manifestor, 6/2, at all before Human Design. They didn’t know how to get close to me and I didn’t know how to explain what was happening in my body. Now I know how I feel and what I need.
I hope that anyone else who is beginning this process with their parents can be patient with them. I wish that when I met Human Design I could have told my parents that I was going through something very meaningful to me.
I wish I could have told them that I need space and time and I need them to be soft and humble with me. And I wish I could have promised them that when the time comes, I will be ready to get closer to them. I couldn’t say these things to my parents. I could not communicate gently to my parents what I was going through and I feel really sad remembering that.
Another thing is, if you are into Human Design and you feel it is challenging for you to communicate with your parents, I recommend talking to them in ‘Human’ language and not in ‘Human Design’ language. For people who are not in Human Design, in my experience, it’s just too weird for them to understand. It’s too weird to say, ‘Hey look, I’m a Manifestor, you’re a Projector blah blah blah.’ for them It’s like, ‘what the?!’ So I recommend that you talk to them using normal language and just say something like, “I’m going through a transformation, I’m using a new tool, I need support here. I’m sorry if sometimes I’m not clear or I have some emotional reaction.” You can ask the other, “please respect what I ask you if you can. And if you do not want to respect my process please understand that I might want to get away from you because I need this for myself.” You can let the other know that you trust that this process will eventually take you deeper into connection.
I wish this was the way that I had talked to my parents when I met Human Design, but at the time I couldn’t. But we are always wiser today than yesterday. I want to support and empower your process to be more humble and soft and to help you to explain Human Design in an accessible way to your parents.
I really believe we can heal ourselves through healing the parent/child relationship. Because a lot of our conditioning is deeply related to our parents.
I can really see how the gates of my father are literally in my brain. I can feel how the splenic fears of my mother are here in my body. And through Strategy and Authority and through pain release and correct communication and patience I know it gets better.
From my experience, it has gotten better and better and I am so glad that my parents are not going to die without me loving and appreciating them. I’m so glad that we have a mutual understanding. I’m so glad that there can be a healing process between a child and their parents. I know so many people that lost their parents without doing this communication. Or who are not in a healthy relationship with their parents? I believe that we are all connected. You know it’s a connection and it’s a blood connection and there are wounds that are to be healed and there are lessons to be learned.
I am so grateful for Human Design. And I’m grateful to myself for being in my process. And I’m grateful to my parents for being open and for taking me back to their arms over and over again. I feel like I am regaining my childhood. I feel like I am regaining my parents.
I wish you all a lot of luck on your journey with your parents. It requires a lot of patience but we are on the right track. “I am on the right track!” This is what I told myself, even when I was angry and upset, I said to myself, I am on the right track. It’s going well. Yes, It’s slow. But I’m on the right track.