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The Root Center – Defined – Fuel for Life

The Root Center- Defined - Fuel for Life

When the root center is defined, it is responsible for the adrenaline and pressure in our physical body for us to move. It is like gasoline in the car, the car of existence.
 
Pain
 
The pain of having a defined Root center is to have this gasoline, but don’t know where to channel it. Imagine you have a car and you have a constant gasoline tank that never ends. But where should this car go to?The fact that you have energy, the fact that you have fuel to move, doesn’t mean that you have to move all the time, in all directions, to every invitation or offer from life.The pain of having a defined Root center is to be disconnected from a deeper aim, a deeper cause, and not knowing where to direct the fuel of the body. Following other people’s rhythms, and not following one’s own individual rhythm.
The pain is saying, “I know I have energy. I know I have the fuel and the adrenaline to move but I am not orientated well. I feel wasted, I feel that I’m not giving my energy properly and correctly according to my real capacity. That the adrenaline is just wasted, not directed to the cause which is my inner truth.”
 
Healing
 
The healing process of having a defined root center is to say, “I own the adrenaline, I own the pressure in my body and I move in my own specific timing. I move according to my inner truth. I know I can act, I know I have the adrenaline, I know I have the motivation. But I will direct it to what is really for me. I’m not gonna waste the energy to people or places that are not for me, not correct for my life journey”.
I’m gonna drive my car to see the views that are for me, to meet the people that are for me, to go to the activities that are specifically for me. I know and feel the pressure in my body, and I expand into that pressure, into that adrenaline. I’m not wasting it. I’m containing it and loving it well inside my body.
 
Potential
 
The potential of defined Root center after observing the pain of disorientation of a car that is driving all over the place without an aim, without a compass. And the process of containing that adrenaline and knowing how to direct the fuel to the right place, that is how an individual with a defined root heals.The potential is to show all of us that we need the right motivation, we need the right fuel for action. We need to know how to contain the basics of life, the pressure to move and expand and grow from it. It is here to bring the question: How can pressure become a correct movement in space? How pressure when it is well-channelled can last for long? How can we use pressure, adrenaline, the energy from within, this physical urge efficiently and effectively, and not throw it away all over the place just because we have it?
The potential of having a defined Root center is appreciating internal resources. And to navigate, each of them, to the correct cause. I have the fuel, I have the energy, I have the adrenaline and I’m able to contain it, and to use it to the right cause, to the right humans, to the right contexts and events.
 
May we all use our car only when it’s needed. May we all use the fuel of our body that is fueling us to move in space and live this life correctly. Not to be oppressed by the mind, not to move just because the mind is pushing us and there is stress in the body. To move because there is a joy because there is meaning because there is a direction because there is a deep intuition and drive, which is beyond perception, which is beyond written words.
 
-“Healing Me – Foundation Course”-
 
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Heart Center (Ego) – Undefined/Open – Inner Confirmation

Heart Center (Ego) - Undefined/Open
Inner Confirmation

When the Heart center (also called the ego) is completely open, or undefined it is amplifying the energy of the defined heart center around it. It is taking in this energy into its own presence and existence.
 
The Pain
The pain that might appear in a completely open/ undefined heart center is a need to “push”. It is saying “I also need to have commitments”, “I also need to prove my self-worth on the material plane”.
The pain is to identify so deeply with the material plane, “I am my car”, “I am my house”, “I am my bank account”. Then I can feel lost, alone, empty if the mind does not get what it wants. Because what is happening when there is less money? What is happening when the car is broken? Am I really that thing?
And the pain says: yes, you are. And you have less, therefor you are less.
The pain is to feel that you aren’t allowed to simply be or worthy of love. The pain is saying “I must prove myself”, “I must push”, “Who I am is not enough”, “How I am is not enough”, “What I do or don’t do is just not enough”.
 
The Healing Process
Therefore, the healing process will be to breathe deeply and to say “I am loved as I am”, “I am worthy of love, just as I am”. Nothing on the exterior world, on the material plane, not a thing represents the essence of who I am. There is no need for me to push forward and to try to prove to myself, or anybody else, anything. Because I’m alive, life is taking care of me. Because I’m here, on this planet, for a reason. All my needs will arise and just find their place. My deep existence is not dependent on the exterior world. I’m worthy because I am, I am loved because I am.
The material plane in this life is constantly taking care of me, even if it’s not in the way my mind wants it to be. If I look deeply and close enough, if I pay attention, I can see that I am in the arms of life. I am held, I am hugged. Therefore, I have nothing to worry about.
 
The Potential
In fact, the potential of the open/ undefined heart center, permeable and exposed, is to display deep Inner Confirmation of “oneself”. “I confirm myself”, “I recognize, I know myself”, “I don’t need external proof that I’m here, that I’m worthy of love”. And this is the beautiful potential of walking on this earth with this center undefined or wide open, to bring the frequency of self-confirmation, no matter what, no matter what other people say or think about you, no matter what is happening on the outside. You know the confirmation of life simply by being.
And this is the real source of abundance, to first recognize it, and feel it within yourself. Feel inner abundance, inner peace, inner confirmation, before it manifests in the matter.
The heart center, when completely open /undefined, has the potential to show all of us that the material plane doesn’t really influence the way we look and treat ourselves. That we can be kind to each other, give compliments to each other, be supportive and loving. Because once you know and confirm yourself, you can see the beauty of other people, and the way they contribute to life through their own unique expression
So nobody needs to push or prove anything. Nobody should, because it’s not a fight, it’s not a war. Life is taking care of us, to each one of us in unique ways, and we will all meet our needs. Because we are surrounded by love, and love is taking care of us, constantly.
 
– From “Healing Me – Human Design Foundation Course” –
 
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My experience with Undefined Ajna

My experience with Undefined Ajna

My experience with undefined became clear just in the last year. In the beginning, I could not really understand what it meant to have an undefined Ajna Center? What is the not-self of the undefined Ajna Center? How does it take shape within me?
But after being in a relationship for a while with a person that has defined an Ajna, I could better see what it means
 
The pressure to fix thoughts patterns.
 
For me every time I was not in my body, loyal to the depth of my emotional authority, I felt like I experienced headaches and pressure in the head, eyes, and the back of the neck. It came from the enormous pressure to have a consistent way of thinking, a way of expressing my thoughts that were fixed.
 
Before I met Human Design I was always trying to be like other people that have such clarity and consistency in their way of formulating thoughts and mental ideas. It sounds so solid and stable to me, but after being in the Human Design experience a while I noticed that this is only the sound of the Ajna.
 
It does not necessarily have physical truth. I slowly started to notice the difference when the defined Ajna is supported by the frequency of the body vs when it is playing its regular audio of data analysis.
Though I must admit it’s not easy to identify the difference.The Ajna Center is the main primary center that takes life and translates it into forms, objects, words, and concepts that we can understand and communicate with each other. For me, very often, it sounds very convincing. It sounds like the truth, like confidence. But actually, it can only be the fixed frequency that is expressed there, like any defined center.
 
What is under the cover?
 
I must admit that it was hard for me to stand in front of the defined Anja, and to bring my truth. Because in my case I don’t have firm mental arguments, fixed patterns to see and organize reality. I just don’t have them. What I do have is the way I feel and what my body resonates with or not. Many times I feel under this pressure, under the concepts, the ideas, the illusion of words that sound so clever and smart. But actually, they can be just a cover. It took me a while, a very long while, to be able to remove the content of the words that were actually well expressed, leaving only the frequency of the person, and from there, to listen.
 
Being inspired
 
On the other hand, when I and the other person were in our bodies, and in our authority, I could enjoy the expression of a unique way of thinking from the other and be inspired!
And through compromising in the Ajna through various gates, I could also experience the exposure of my own unique structuring of concepts. To be with an undefined Ajna means, for me, to enjoy many ways of seeing reality. Being exposed to all kinds of different boxes, that never passed in my way of thinking before.
 
The main insight that I have so far is to allow myself fluidity of thoughts, to flow with my perspectives on life in the mental realm, knowing that there is no certainty in the way I think. There is no consistency, I can simply change my observation and my mind quite easily. The only thing I can trust is the body and the frequency of it. In my case, emotions, and the way I feel without any explanation, in the moment and over time.
 
People with undefined Ajna, how do you experience it?
Do you feel more inspiration or more pressure where you are now in your process?
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My experience with the undefined sacral

My exprience with open spleen 

The open spleen is one of the most fascinating centers to look at in my body graph. The spleen is completely open, and all fears and intuitions are passing through there.
 
The illusion of physical safety
 
I remembered my father told me that as a child I used to enter a road full of cars without even caring, with no fear, and with complete ignorance of the possible danger. When I grew up, those reckless decisions became an attachment and an unreasonable fear for survival.
A few months before I entered the Human Design experiment, I had a boyfriend with a defined spleen, and I remember feeling so safe around him, like I could do anything and be everywhere and at any time and under any conditions, acting like a complete Tarzan. But while alone I would not even consider those adventures.
After a few months of dating, I needed to leave my place, and I immediately jumped on the opportunity to live next to him, close to nature, in a yurt. Back then he had no running water and no heating system. He was almost self-sufficient with all physical needs. My mind found it charming, but my body suffered immensely.
The feeling of being protected, like I could do everything around him was so strong! Once I came back home, all the courage and curiosity vanished away, and I was glad to come back to my princess palace which is clean and warm, compared to him it even seemed spoiled.
 
Seeing conditioning in action!
 
After a while, I met the Human Design experiment and dove radically into it. Our road started to split, and he funny enough had almost all the same undefined centers I have. The genes are just trying to find the perfect match and with no Inner Authority, they succeed in doing so! Hilarious!
I was deep in my experiment and could not ignore the mechanics. I needed my space alone, to not be overloaded by sacral energy, to take care of my body, not to make any intuitive decisions, or to be under pressure.
I came to him and I said that I might take some distance for a while. He knew about Human Design, and he respected me while being convinced that I’m crazy 🙂 He was extremely kind but could not understand things that I experienced within my body while I’m around him.
The same day we broke up and I left his place. I remember all my body shaking, I started to cry, and I felt like a little baby being left alone in the dark. Like I might die every second moment, or as if someone will come in any moment and eat me. I felt unprotected and weak. Like I could literally not survive on my own. (although I had already been living on my own since the age of 18, including three years alone in foreign countries).
Because I had in my awareness the knowledge of Human Design, I knew those were only the voices of my open spleen speaking in their not self-frequency. And I could see clearly its effect on my body! Once I got home everything disappeared, the chemistry dissolved, and I felt relieved.
 
Beautiful – yet not mine
 
I understood that all the moments that I wanted to be spontaneous, to be out there in nature under every possible condition, while I trust my intuition, are simply false. I learned to respect the needs of my physical body, to take good care of it, knowing that my body is extremely sensitive, seeing over and over again that I can have fears with no proportion.
Nowadays I surrender to the fact that I am a little princess, and I need my palace. I need to be very attentive to the food I put in my body, to hot and cold weather, and even to the people that I meet. Now I just enjoy seeing people living in the wild, being intuitive, I enjoy seeing their trip while knowing that this is not mine. And I thank, once again, the Human Design knowledge and embodied experience, exposing to me time after time who I am and what I’m not, so I can enjoy my ride and live it fully.
Undefined and open spleen people – how do you experience it? What do you discover about yourself from it?
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My experience with the undefined sacral

My experience with the undefined sacral

The undefined sacral is a very interesting topic for me to share about. Over the years I discovered so many layers of wisdom and pain within this center.
I grew up in a house with a generator mother and brother. Both my father and I are Manifestors and of course, have undefined sacrals.
When I was told that I’m not here to work, I could not believe how deep this sentence goes, and I started an ongoing investigation of what “work” really means to me?
And if I’m not here to “work”, what am I here for?
 
Sacral Rehab
 
In the first two years of my Human Design experiment, I felt I was passing through a complete “sacral rehab” as I like to call it. I was reducing work, physical activity, interaction with people, all I was longing for was just time on my own while doing nothing, hanging around with, myself, or going crazy, but surely learning to be with whatever is and I managed to do so. To maintain my needs with really little work, to make space for my own, to spend most of my days floating in my own bubble.
Now I understand that cutting away from the world was the relatively easy part, and that actually the real sacral rehab is just starting! What do I mean by that? When I had no excuses, no outer distractions, no physical work that demanded much of my attention or time, then I had to meet all the thinking patterns, pain, memories, dark places hidden in the undefined sacral.
I remember that one of the most powerful thoughts I had is “ life is happening outside, around people in constant activity. If I’m not there I’m not alive”.
 
If I’m not working and producing, meeting with people, who am I then?
I felt confusion, self-doubt, loneliness, fear, and disorientation, while I allowed myself not to be available.
I knew I was passing through a very deep transformation. Every day I discovered a little piece of my real energy, every day I discovered a sacral addiction. I could recognize it in the physical body and mental body. I remember being very tired and getting exhausted easily. I remember how weird it felt to be so young yet so tired!
But for the first time in my life, I did not try to solve it, thinking that something was wrong with me. I knew I wasn’t sick. I knew that I was healing from one of the most powerful conditioning we have as non-sacral beings.
 
Wisdom
 
After 2-3 years,  I discovered new energy rising within my body, I felt like the first part of the rehab was over, and the resting and investigation became a wisdom resource. My main questions became how to channel and navigate energy correctly? How could I be efficient and organized enough to use my beautiful life force?
I have energy because I’m alive, because I’m here, and my energy is indeed special and different, and I have to treat it like that!
I learned to be attentive to all the things that give me energy, and all the things to take my energy away: food, people, working space, inspiration input, physical activity, resting time, physical environment – I saw everything through the lens of what gives me energy and what takes away the energy?
 
I didn’t feel bad anymore saying no, setting my boundaries, having enough sleep, working hours that were fitting for my physical condition.
I feel like I started to master the art of quantities, which would increase quality. I know there is still a long way to go, but I feel my body is cleaner and clearer every day. I don’t experience burnout anymore. I recover fast. I feel vital and inspired more than ever.
And I’m looking forward to using this energy and to keep on expanding.
I also know that it didn’t happen in one day. I had to go through many days of emptiness, tears, facing a lot of my fears.
Now I see the sacral condition as a source of pure wisdom. All the undefined sacral beings are possessing this beautiful precious gift, which is handling energy correctly, efficiently, and maximizing quality.
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Awareness points for Emotional Beings

Awareness points for Emotional Beings

One of my favorite topics in Human Design is the Solar Plexus, the emotional center, and the emotional being versus the non-emotional being. Today I would like to focus on the emotional being and a few things I was noticing along the way as an Emotional Manifestor.
Every year, every month, every week, every day there is a deeper and deeper understanding of what it is like to be an emotional being.
 
1)To connect to my emotions. It is not always easy to connect to what I feel. First, I would like to separate emotions and feelings. Emotions are the chemistry that rises up and down and feelings are the sensations in the body that come with the emotions. Allowing myself time during the day to connect to those emotions is not easy. To see how I can take the emotions from the head center to the throat center to the G center and down to the solar plexus in the area of the belly and the lower ribs. From my experience so far it takes time to dive into that trail of the body.
Literally like deep diving in the sea, it takes time to go down and to put the weight and equipment and make it down to the depths. The same applies to being an emotional being, it takes time to drop into your body and see what it feels.

2)Practical tool I would like to propose is a diary, internal or external, that goes from hope to pain. If you have a circumstance in your life or a decision you can just follow the good positive emotions and the negative emotions that come with it and make a diary.
I propose to put a sign on the wall or somewhere visible to you, with a word/ drawing of a decision or topic, or person.
Then you can come in front of it and see how you feel about it today and now?
Ask your mind not to judge if it is positive or negative if it relates to pain or pleasure. It’s simple like stepping into a room and see how you feel in this room each time.
You can do this physically on the wall or just simply do this within yourself.
It will obviously be a process, sometimes there will be a lot of pain relating to that person, decision, circumstances, sometimes much excitement and pleasure, or many questions and uncertainty.
This is actually the process of being an emotional being is to connect with something and to see what comes out of it emotionally and know that it will not be the same meaning whatever you feel now will change in a couple of minutes, hours and days. Just let the change be.

3)How to communicate emotions. I know that for me is has been a struggle and something I am still discovering is how to communicate what I feel to others using different vocabulary and different tools. What I have found is that before I even speak I want to find an emotional place within me, so I can talk from there. To find out how I connect to an emotional frequency within my body and then allow the words to go out from that place.
Many times I wanted to express something emotionally and I just did not have the words and I was not deeply in my emotional frequency in my body so although I had a really beautiful message to share with beautiful wisdom, it did not pass through because the frequency was not embodied in my emotions in the solar plexus. Some people are very sensitive to this and so am I. When I speak from a place of emotion that is connected to what I really experience then even if it is very hard it is easier to listen and to grasp what I try to express

4) Emotional being – do not give up on your emotional depth. Do not give up the wisdom and the details and the profound frequency that you each display in this life. It is not always easy to be that deep, that person that needs a lot of time but this is our gift! to be profound and deep. Touching the places that are part of the deepest landscape of our being, like touching the womb. Like touching under the earth.
Even though in our society half of us are emotional and the other half are non-emotional there is a tendency to talk in a very superficial way. When the emotional being is correct in their body and is embodying their own frequency, they are actually proposing more profound communication, something that needs time to reach.
So if I, as an emotional being, see that I need to talk fast in order to explain myself and I need to be superficial in order to connect with the other then I understand this form of communication is not for me because this is not my potential. My potential is to bring something deep and to see if there is a place for that depth.
Emotional beings – do not give up on your depth! because this is your gift, this is your potential, this is what you are here to bring. You are not here to bring a glass of water, you are here to bring the whole ocean to your creation, relationship, self, and into your daily presence.

Those are my awareness points for now. I hope they can empower you.
 
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The pain of the Emotional Being

The pain of the Emotional Being

Today I would like to share about the pain of an Emotional Being according to my experience and according to other Emotional Beings I am in contact with, as we shared the same pain.
We know that the Solar Plexus is the center that is responsible for the chemistry of emotions in our body and it is deeply related to pain and pleasure. It operates in waves and is all about taking the time to feel all the emotional details from life and let contemplation be. It is about time, depth, waiting, and allowing oneself to be the ocean.
I would like to share with you three points that have created pain and suffering in my life until slowly I discovered how I can embrace them and heal them.
 
1) Superficiality: As an emotional being I had a huge problem being superficial myself and having superficial interactions. As I had a deep need for depth and a deep need to go deep into whatever it is.
The pain was there because I saw around me the fear to go down deep into the experience. I felt that I needed to copy that and that I also needed to be superficial and to be smiling all the time and to be light and showing I am “ok”.This was part of the pain I was carrying until I met Human Design,the world seemed to me so superficial and I didn’t know how I fit in. Through time, through my experience and Human Design experiment, it is more that I allowed myself to be emotional than I became at peace with sometimes life will be superficial. I don’t always have the possibility or the option to go deep and this is completely fine.
This healing process was possible only when I was surrendering to my own depths and to my own waiting that I could accept superficiality and see the beauty of lightness and fun and things that are not so deep that are going faster.

2 ) Pressure of time: I noticed that this world can be very fast. People want a fast response or life is demanding that I act fast. I constantly felt under pressure and for an Emotional Being this can create a lot of inner anxiety and a lot of feelings of hurrying one process which is very very painful. The pain that comes when the outer environment is pressuring for answer and action while the inner environment, my inner authority, was not giving a green light to it.
The healing process included being okay with my own rhythm and my own timing no matter what is happening outside. This healing process continues building up as I am passing another day, another week, another month into the experiment.
I feel more and more comfortable taking my time and if this situation can not wait for me or the person can not wait for me then this thing is not for me. I learned to respect it. Today it feels completely different to know that I have my own world, my own timing, and my own timeframe to decide. I am here to respect and honor it, as it is my gift too.

3) Emotional understanding: As an Emotional Being I experience life constantly from the realm of emotions so everything for me is an emotional encounter or activity or circumstance. Everything is under the umbrella of emotions. For many years I was lacking emotional understanding. The resonance to the abstract world that I live in, I felt like I needed someone that can understand that. I felt lonely when I saw people around me looking for logic and looking for linear ways of thinking and looking at reality in a certain way while inside I felt many things are so abstract and emotional.
This healing process became very evident for me as I was deepening my own experience, I learned how to give myself this emotional expression and I also met people who understand this emotional expression. Finally, I could bond through that realm. What I learned through my experience is that when I bring this kind of perspective people can understand it but I can not expect other people to bring it if it is not part of who they are. I felt a big relief to bring emotional understanding to myself and then also to see that people can relate to it.
As more self-love came and appreciation and the ability to understand and feel me then I could give more space to the abstraction to the way I lived and I also found allies and a way to communicate this emotional life that I live.
 
4) How to gather all the information: I feel so many things and I constantly live my life through emotions, my emotions, the emotions of others. I live in such an abstract world that is full of emotions and water sensations, images and colors, I didn’t know how to gather all of it together? I felt frustrated not being able to embrace all the details and the nuances that shape me. This was a very deep pain for me to feel that I don’t succeed to bring everything together that is complete and makes it possible for me to grasp.
Through my healing process, I became more relaxed within and I learned how to accumulate all the data from the physical realm, the mental realm, and the emotional realm, and through time I learned how to express all the details of it when the time comes.
I was practicing a lot on how I verbalize to myself my inner world and to other people what I perceive. Now I allow myself the time to accumulate and to accumulate and to accumulate the data that I have received and let it sink with patience.
I learned to trust that through time I will see the picture and it will make sense and that my body and life will show me the magic of the whole. I feel I have expanded and I have the ability to embrace, through waiting and through time, all the nuances and all the emotional realities that I live in.
 
I hope this was beneficial for people that are emotional to connect to your pain because we as emotional people can allow pain and it is not something that scares us. Allowing the pain of superficiality and allowing the pain of being under pressure and stress and allowing the pain of not being understood emotionally and allowing the pain of how all the details will be gathered. Just accepting and giving space to that pain and from there I believe there is always a healing process and deep beautiful completion. Once there is an acceptance of what is painful there is also a possibility for transformation.
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Awareness-Practical points for Non-Emotional Beings

Awareness-Practical points for Non-Emotional Beings

I am an Emotional Manifestor but since entering the experiment I have had a lot of intimate relationships with people who are undefined or completely open in their solar plexus. In Human Design we call it “Non-Emotional beings”. As I am constantly exploring Human design I am constantly looking for more awareness and understanding between us, the humans. I was kind of forced to look at the dynamics between emotional and non-emotional.
Life took me to these kinds of relationships to explore and to observe. I was observing and recognizing a few points of awareness that may support the Non-Emotional beings.
 
1) Identify You identify when there is an emotional frequency in the space, you will feel a vibration that is present in the moment. So as Non-Emotional being the first step is to identify that something is “strange” in the atmosphere. Recognizing that until now everything was kind of okay like fluid water and then suddenly there is an emotion that creates a more condensed flow.
Emotion is something that is very condensed and very evident that is influencing its surroundings easily, so you want to give it space and attention and not be surprised by it. It can be a low wave or high wave but something in the density of the air will change and see if you can make sure to identify it. For each one it will be different, maybe you will feel it in the physicality, maybe you will feel it in your solar plexus itself. Maybe you will feel it in your belly or your eyes, so see what physical symptoms you can identify? Maybe you could also identify certain thoughts you have when this particular emotional frequency is entering into the picture? As you know the tendency of the not-self of the undefined/ open solar plexus is to avoid confrontation and truth, so the first step into meeting gracefully this conditioning and transforming it into wisdom is to say:” I know it is here, I don’t need to run away or act, I just identify the difference, that it is present now”.

2 ) Simple sentence Then you will go to the empathy part. If you are with someone emotional, you will know what the other feels on some level. What can be useful is just to imagine what the other might feel, and saying it words, in simple short sentences. If it’s pain, confusion, disappointment, joy, passion and just verbalizing it for yourself, ask yourself :” how can I enter into the world of the other and understand how it feels and make it simple?” .Because emotional frequency can be at times very abstract and hard to describe.
When you understand the other and make it simple for yourself, only then you can bring empathy, and it starts to be less frightening, if not it is just overwhelming. If you verbalize for yourself what is happening on the other side you are actually telling your body:” this was not here and now it is here, what is it?” You are entering into a mode of curiosity instead of fear and rejection and separation. When you start this inner inquiry it will feel more familiar and more comfortable to allow it to show you something instead of running away or entering into it roughly which are the two possibilities that the undefined/open solar plexus people are doing when they not self if active.

3) What is right for me – You recognized there is a change, you asked yourself what the other might be feeling and gave it words and then check with yourself – How are you about this? Do you need more time? Maybe it is not the time for you to feel something very exciting or something very low? Maybe later and maybe not at all? Just allowing yourself to dance with the possibilities and knowing you have the choice and you can observe the choice that is emerging out of your Inner Authority.

4) Communicate : once you are clear then you can communicate it to the other, for example, to say ”there is something here I need a moment/ there is something here let’s talk about it later / there is something here I don’t want to talk about or anything at all right now.” It is a way to respect your capacity at the moment and what is healthy for your body.

5) Inner Wisdom What I learned about myself? We can all learn from each other and if you as a Non-Emotional being experience an emotion from out side, either very high or very low, it is coming to show you something about yourself as well!.
It is true that it is not a constant frequency in your body and you should not make decisions from it but you can for sure learn something about yourself. You can learn about your own sorrow and hidden pain. You can learn about your own capacity to express joy and excitement and love.

When you step out of the situation or the situation is over, you can ask yourself :” what did I learn from this encounter? ” The tendencyI observed with Non-Emtotional beings is to say “This is not mine and I just continue and do things my way!!” but I don’t believe that human interaction is happening in order for us to just neglect each other. The essence in my experience is to learn from one another as I learn from each of my undefined and open centers.
 
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How to respond to emotional crises? Rooted in the 36 gate

How to respond to emotional crises?
Rooted in the 36 gate

I would like to share with you some practical tools from my experience about the emotional crisis through gate 36. I feel it may support all kinds of emotional crises not only people who have the 36 gate.  

So what happens when a friend of mine, mother, daughter, partner comes to me with an emotional crisis?  When I say emotional crisis I mean this very condensed frequency that is expressing:” Ugh everything is falling apart, I feel pain, I feel awful pain, I don’t see the good anymore, it’s so dark in here and it’s horrible I don’t want to live with that and I am so condensed!” Or What happens when I feel this kind of frequency?


In my view, this situation is asking me just to listen and to make space in my body for that frequency. Emotional crisis It is not an easy frequency to contain, so I want not to try to fix this person, and not try to rationalize what is happening to this person. Not try to control or make sense of this pain; it is only emotional pain. 


I have this gate 36, in the red so it is part of my design, it is part of the collective abstract stream, so sometimes it needs to share the crisis with others. So when it is lighting up I let myself or another person share the crisis, to release through words the baggage.

If I see it is too much for me, if I see it’s too heavy right now to hold space, I find a kind way to say it:” I see you are in pain now, I would like to give it space when I am available / I see that I am not able to be here for you right now, I am sending you to love and support/ I feel you are having a hard time, it sounds very painful, I am sorry but I can’t be there for you right now, I let you know when I am”.


What is happening in that moment of “ break down: is just me experiencing an emotional crisis after a new experience I had. I’m always like this, I enter a new emotional experience, it can be beautiful, amazing, thoughtful, hard, challenging or whatever it is, then the experience is over and I fall. I fall off the cliff, the chemistry droops, I feel deeply emotional. Emotionally drained into this crisis. It is just a chemical reaction in the body. 


I feel that what I need is from myself and the others not to be scared from the “negativity” and condense emotion I feel. What can be helpful when I am in this situation is to actually verbalize to me what is happening from a calm perspective:” I see you are in pain, I see you are frustrated and sad, I see it feels like storm and crises to you right now.. Would you like to share what you feel? How is it? ….Thank you for sharing it with me”, basically using mirroring and reflection words. 


It is better not to try to make sense of this crisis, and to try to see the good side right now. Because It is not a logic gate or frequency. It is an abstract frequency. The crises can come also after an experience that was amazing and “good” but the emotional depth of the emotional being is to see the dark side in any beautiful side of this life as well. If I take the pain and the dark side from the emotional being then I take the depth from this life. I DO NOT want to take the depth from this life, I really don’t want that because then everything will be super flat and boring. 

So dealing with a crisis is allowing the crisis to be, letting the person share its feeling, massy as they are, echoing to the person what it feels. Not trying to change the situation and especially giving it time because it’s emotional and its collective frequency. It needs time in order to verbalize and feel over and over again, in order to look at the crisis from different perspectives,  Sampling the “Story” thorough this and that, before and after, inside and outside, you and me until the crisis comes into completion through the time when the chemistry changes again. 


I believe we are all experiencing emotional crises in that way or another, or having around us people who have them, not just emotional beings so I guess we can all benefit from contemplation on this subject, asking what will be the best way to deal with that? To make it space? To allow it to be entirely?

I wonder how we can be there for each other in moments of emotional crises? that life is always providing us.

 Luckily life is never boring and we have breaking points and in my experience, they are part of the beauty of being alive, and  I am here to live not only to experience the “positive” emotions but also the “negative” emotions, knowing that both of them create depth and showing me the range of colors of what it actually means to be alive.  

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Emotional vs. non-emotional, and the gift of patience in relationships

Emotional vs. non emotional, and the gift of patience in relationships.

I would like to share with you about relationships and the way I see them translated into Human Design. One of the big differences we have in dynamics between two people is emotional vs non-emotional (Defined in the Solar Plexus vs Not defined in the solar plexus center).
 
 Yesterday I had a conversation with a beautiful friend and she was talking about her and a guy she’s dating and specifically the differences that they have regarding the number of meetings. As I know this guy is emotional and she is non-emotional, I took a moment to talk to her and told her that some people need quiet time to digest, reflect to understand what they feel before they are ready to meet up again for a new emotional experience.I said, for example, I meet the same people day after day, the same person, I just take a lot of information in, and at a certain point, I cannot anymore. I need this space not to meet that person in order to digest the experience emotionally. I explained to her the need for space as an emotional being to go through chemistry.I also told her that when I meet the same person day after day I feel like I’m fluttered and overwhelmed with emotional information. The depths and the beauty of being emotional in a relationship is having all this time to digest the emotional nuances and how they affect my emotional frequency and the way I perceive and take in the other and life in general. Because as an emotional being I take and I see everything through the emotional lens, through pain and pleasure, and how I feel the details gather over time and bring depth and richness into the way I live reality. 
She was amazed. What I said sounds strange to her, she said that after 1-2 days she is already ready to meet up again, and be present, in the intensity of the relationship, she could not completely graph wh so much time is needed? 
 
In my view all relationships need time. If we are emotional or not. We need time to take in each other, to digest each other, to contemplate, to feel, to allow this change to be within ourselves.In my view, all relationships need this certain level of space, air, perspective, and adjustment that asks for a time in order to mature. Things are not happening in one day. Some maybe need more and some less.
In the case of emotional and non-emotional is just more evident. The emotional being is going through a motion of up and down waves constantly, and different range of density the emotional realm that relates to past and future, and the non-emotional being is not constantly processing emotions; it has a more “objective – flat way” of taking in the other, because there is no emotional frequency that colors the encounter, it is more connected to what is happening at the moment.
 
So do you see what is happening when they meet before the time is right?  One is in a constant emotional process, feeling the emotional weight of the relationship, and another being is just once in a while digesting and processing heavy-light emotions related to the relationship.
 
Do you see what it does to relationships? The non-emotional goes – “Come on, I got it! Whatever it is, we don’t need to talk or relate to it because I don’t feel it! – so it does not exist for me, I only feel it when I’m with you, when I’m not with you I’m not processing it or I’m not constantly processing it, so I really don’t understand where all this ‘drama is coming from?! – why does it need to be so heavy?”On the other hand, the emotional being goes:” There is so much to process and I feel so much and there is so much to say and I need more time and I cannot move on because I am still in this process and feel this and that… And much in between! Can we open it up?? Can we dive into it?”.
When emotional and non-emotional beings meet and there is no conscious access to this difference, no awareness of it, it can create so many misunderstandings. One person needs more time and the other can say;” Why do you need all this time? Are you rejecting me? You don’t want me in your life?”  And the emotional being can be stressed saying: “it’s not that I don’t want you, actually I just don’t know how I feel, there are so many things happening inside, so… I don’t know… And…. I feel like this and like that…”
So we have these two different dynamics in processing information, it is challenging.  
 
From my perspective, it is one of the main goals why Human Design is here to expose the differences and how we can benefit from each other. First, so we learn to respect each other and support each other in this way. And then potentially we can learn:  How can I, as an emotional being, benefit from the non-emotional world? What can I learn? What do I give to the non-emotional being? What can they learn from me?  
 
I am offering to give a moment to all relationships in our lives, regardless if you are emotional or nonemotional the relationship needs space to contain all the details and the differences.  Each other in its own processes, its own karma, its own life process.  In order to connect and meet it needs dedication and patience to go through the round and another round, cycle after cycle so we can really meet as we are. It requires a lot of patience to allow the movement of getting closer and going away without judgment. Understanding we have different chemistries in the body. 
 
I hope this was helpful for your process and I hope we can all cultivate patience in relationships.  Maybe also to forgive when it is not happening, seeing the options of taking a day off, an hour off, a week off, and to remembering the higher perspective as to why we give time to ourselves and the other. We give time because there is time. There is an abundance of time because there is nowhere to go and if we do things incorrectly we can suffer enormously.
 
We are in an abundance of time and space; there is nowhere to rush. If things aren’t being done correctly then in the end it is like shooting oneself in the leg. It is not creating progress, it is doing the opposite and taking the relationship backward. So with this perspective of time and its abundance and fluidity maybe it will be easier to wait. To be patient,  because we know it is better to meet when the time is right and will better fulfill the potential of the meeting.The higher perspective and deeper understanding of the mechanics is helping us to be patient and to cultivate this breath within relationships.