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So what happens when a friend of mine, mother, daughter, partner comes to me with an emotional crisis? When I say emotional crisis I mean this very condensed frequency that is expressing:” Ugh everything is falling apart, I feel pain, I feel awful pain, I don’t see the good anymore, it’s so dark in here and it’s horrible I don’t want to live with that and I am so condensed!” Or What happens when I feel this kind of frequency?
In my view, this situation is asking me just to listen and to make space in my body for that frequency. Emotional crisis It is not an easy frequency to contain, so I want not to try to fix this person, and not try to rationalize what is happening to this person. Not try to control or make sense of this pain; it is only emotional pain.
I have this gate 36, in the red so it is part of my design, it is part of the collective abstract stream, so sometimes it needs to share the crisis with others. So when it is lighting up I let myself or another person share the crisis, to release through words the baggage.
If I see it is too much for me, if I see it’s too heavy right now to hold space, I find a kind way to say it:” I see you are in pain now, I would like to give it space when I am available / I see that I am not able to be here for you right now, I am sending you to love and support/ I feel you are having a hard time, it sounds very painful, I am sorry but I can’t be there for you right now, I let you know when I am”.
What is happening in that moment of “ break down: is just me experiencing an emotional crisis after a new experience I had. I’m always like this, I enter a new emotional experience, it can be beautiful, amazing, thoughtful, hard, challenging or whatever it is, then the experience is over and I fall. I fall off the cliff, the chemistry droops, I feel deeply emotional. Emotionally drained into this crisis. It is just a chemical reaction in the body.
I feel that what I need is from myself and the others not to be scared from the “negativity” and condense emotion I feel. What can be helpful when I am in this situation is to actually verbalize to me what is happening from a calm perspective:” I see you are in pain, I see you are frustrated and sad, I see it feels like storm and crises to you right now.. Would you like to share what you feel? How is it? ….Thank you for sharing it with me”, basically using mirroring and reflection words.
It is better not to try to make sense of this crisis, and to try to see the good side right now. Because It is not a logic gate or frequency. It is an abstract frequency. The crises can come also after an experience that was amazing and “good” but the emotional depth of the emotional being is to see the dark side in any beautiful side of this life as well. If I take the pain and the dark side from the emotional being then I take the depth from this life. I DO NOT want to take the depth from this life, I really don’t want that because then everything will be super flat and boring.
So dealing with a crisis is allowing the crisis to be, letting the person share its feeling, massy as they are, echoing to the person what it feels. Not trying to change the situation and especially giving it time because it’s emotional and its collective frequency. It needs time in order to verbalize and feel over and over again, in order to look at the crisis from different perspectives, Sampling the “Story” thorough this and that, before and after, inside and outside, you and me until the crisis comes into completion through the time when the chemistry changes again.
I believe we are all experiencing emotional crises in that way or another, or having around us people who have them, not just emotional beings so I guess we can all benefit from contemplation on this subject, asking what will be the best way to deal with that? To make it space? To allow it to be entirely?
I wonder how we can be there for each other in moments of emotional crises? that life is always providing us.
Luckily life is never boring and we have breaking points and in my experience, they are part of the beauty of being alive, and I am here to live not only to experience the “positive” emotions but also the “negative” emotions, knowing that both of them create depth and showing me the range of colors of what it actually means to be alive.